ࡱ> AC@q`  bjbjqPqP .,:: $$$$$$$88hL(((((((.000000$hpT$(((((T$$((izzz( $($(.z(.zzr*T$$( 2 ~.02<4D$,((z(((((TTp (((((((888$\ D888\ 888$$$$$$ Understanding Self Harm Introduction Most of us act at some time in a way that is harmful to our body whether it be by drinking, smoking or other excesses. This leaflet is about the need to inflict injury on oneself in a more deliberate way such as cutting, burning, stabbing, scratching, hair pulling and bruising. Such action is rarely an attempt at suicide or an expression of madness; however, it is a sign there are problems that need addressing. What makes someone want to hurt themselves? The origins of self-harm often lie in a deep feeling of being powerless, trapped, or without choice. This may come from unhappy experiences in the past or a traumatic event such as being attacked. Current events can reinforce old feelings of distress, particularly when life is very stressful, or a person feels isolated, lacking support or understanding, or is under constant criticism. Resorting to self injury is a way of both indicating that difficulties exist and is also an attempt to cope with the problems. Although harming oneself is not a constructive way of dealing with these difficulties, it may serve some of the following functions: to tell people something is wrong to legitimise feelings of pain to gain a sense of control to distract and bring a sense of relief to manage unacceptable feelings such as anger to punish oneself to protest to express shame and self hatred to overcome numbness and restore a capacity to feel to cleanse. If you want help because you injure yourself It is very important you care for your injuries with basic first aid: keep cuts clean and wrapped, burns need to be cooled and covered. If you are in any doubt, do seek some medical help, perhaps from a college nurse or your doctor. the more you understand your need to injure yourself, the more likely you are to be able to make choices and look after yourself talking to a friend or relative about your feelings and self-injury may help, but choose carefully who to tell. Be prepared for an emotional, even shocked reaction - and go on to say what you need, such as to be listened to not lectured; to be treated normally and not repeatedly asked if you are O.K.; to be distracted or offered companionship; or even to be given a hug and a cup of tea! if you feel uncomfortable about talking to a relative or friend, then turn to a professional you feel you could trust, such as a college nurse or the University Counselling Service. Perhaps you want to stop hurting yourself but do not know how to begin or realise it will be really hard. It is possible to stop! Even making a little change in the right direction is important; go at your own pace, do as much or as little as you can. Stopping harming yourself is likely to involve both loss and fear. Many may not understand this, but in stopping you may feel that you risk losing any sense of control, or losing the means to express how you feel. And initially you may feel afraid that you will not be able to find any good and adequate alternatives. Talking to a counsellor is a good way of having some support while you take the risk to stop. If you know someone who injures themselves It is natural to feel upset, helpless, even angry about what your friend or relative is doing. Rather than being frightened, regard it as a way s/he uses to cope with the difficulties in their life. Of course you want your friend to stop the self injury but you cannot force them to stop. However, you can help: by trying to understand how self injury makes your friend's life easier and being accepting of her/his felt need to do it by encouraging your friend to talk and listening sympathetically to the feelings involved by maintaining a balance in the friendship through sharing your own joys and worries too, as a friendship ceases to be that if it is all one way! by suggesting your friend calls if s/he feels upset or wants to hurt her/himself, but in doing so think about your own needs. You may be tired or have your own pressures. It is important to be able to say "no" under these circumstances If the problem starts to get on top of you, find someone to talk to - preferably a person who is neutral and right outside the situation such as a college nurse, a chaplain, your tutor, a GP or your vicar. Remember, you are not responsible for your friend's actions. Do not offer more than you can cope with - it is better to offer a little support which you can sustain, rather than offering a lot and then withdraw it. You can also come to the Counselling Service and talk about how to help your friend as well as how to look after yourself. We are experienced in dealing with issues of self-harm. Further information British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy - Offers a database of counsellors across the country.  HYPERLINK "http://www.bacp.co.uk/"www.bacp.co.uk Daily Strength - Offers support, advice and information to people who are experiencing any/all aspects of self harm, including self violence, eating disorders, abuse, bullying and mental health issues and their related problems.  HYPERLINK "http://www.dailystrenght.org/"www.dailystrength.org MIND - Offers support, advice and information to people who are experiencing mental health related problems and also supports their families.  HYPERLINK "http://www.mind.org.uk/"www.mind.org.uk Recover Your Life - Offers support, advice and information to people who are experiencing any/all aspects of self harm, including self violence, eating disorders, abuse, bullying and mental health issues and their related problems.  HYPERLINK "http://www.recoveryourlife.com/"www.recoveryourlife.com & !L2EF|Ƿv\vv3jhah>*B*KHUmH phsH $hah>*B*KHmH phsH -jhah>*B*KHUmH phsH hKHmH sH hahKHmH sH hah5KH\mH sH  hHk5h_hHk5 h_hHkh_h_5h_h_hHk>*CJ4aJ4h_h_>*CJ4aJ4& u y  0 C O q K!L & Fgdgd_$a$gd_ Z2F   gdgd_   λήλλtjλPλKCh_h5 h53jhah>*B*KHUmH phsH hKHmH sH h>*B*KHmH phsH 3jLhah>*B*KHUmH phsH hah5KH\mH sH hahKHmH sH $hah>*B*KHmH phsH -jhah>*B*KHUmH phsH 3jhah>*B*KHUmH phsH    h_hHk,1h. 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